Say This When Conflict Arises
In a Relationship
Arguments are inevitable. But how you argue can make or break your relationship.
Six simple things you can do today to be a better boyfriend or husband.
Like so often in life, when it comes to being romantic, it's the little things that matter. You don't need to concoct these epic overtures to make your partner feel appreciated or adored. "Many guys are afraid to do romantic things because they think it will be lame or they'll get laughed at, or it won't go over as well as they had hoped" says relationship coach Jordan Gray. "And so they don't even try, which is a shame." Because even the smallest actions—writing a note or giving a back rub—will have a lasting impact because they're genuine and more importantly, unexpected. Surprise, according to Gray, is absolutely essential in your romantic gesture. Another important consideration he says is calibration. Don't ask yourself "What could I do that would seem romantic?" Instead, think about simple ways to show your appreciation and thoughtfulness. Herewith, six simple gestures you could do today that will make your partner feel the love.
Gently play with her hair while you're watching TV. Nothing too complex, just a little light head touching and hair-stroking will put her into a near-meditative state. Or offer up a back-rub after a long, hard day.
When eating out at a restaurant, order some dessert to go so the two of you can eat it at home while watching a movie or your favorite TV show. Or just show up with something sweet to share the next time you come over.
Breakfast in bed sounds good in theory. But in reality, it's awkward to try and eat and drink amidst a tangle of sheets. Your best bet is to fix a simple breakfast (eggs and toast, perhaps?) and set it out nicely on the kitchen table. Extra points if it's a Monday morning.
Sometimes it's difficult to come up with something on the fly. So start a running list on your phone and jot down ideas or gifts that your partner would appreciate. Then refer to it when you want to make a move.