The Handbook - How To Guides
 
 
 
31 Days: Style Tips and Tricks
 
Volume 3
 

All the tips and tricks needed to shape up for 2011. Each day brings new, expert advice on how to look your best and live life to the fullest, while having a little fun doing it.

Etiquette
Day
4

The Subtle Art of the Handshake

In this age of hands-free, bluetooth technology, the handshake is something of a lost art. But it's an art nonetheless. And it's an important one for any man to master. Because, like they say, you only get one chance to make a good first impression. And a handshake needs to instantly convey your interest, strength and sincerity.

 
1
Think of it as a pitch.

A good shake is the result of good timing. Let your body language signal to the other person that he or she has got one coming. Swing your hand up from your hip, palm turned just slightly toward the floor.

 
2
Maintain eye contact.

Don't look for or at the other person's hand.

 
3
Firm is the name of the game.

No one wants a weak handshake—not even women. Don't worry, you're not gripping as hard as you think big guy. Just don't squeeze.

 
4
Hold 'em there.

Don't let go as soon as contact is made—we call this premature evacuation. If it's someone you know, bring the shake toward you and notice how the other person leans in.

 
5
And release.

Three to five beats should suffice. Don't be the guy who holds their hand until you've finished whatever it is you wanted to say. You're not running for office.

 

Around the World

Brazil:
Handshakes typically last three to four beats longer than in America.

France:
The French do it with finesse. A soft grip with one or two pumps.

Germany:
Engineered for efficiency. It's a firm shake, but it's a quick one too.

Italy:
A strong but genial shake with direct eye contact.

Japan:
Expect a longer handshake. Too firm a grip is considered rude.

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